Thursday, May 25, 2006
Strangers With Candy
When did candy become such an important part of my children's lives? Surely I wouldn't have let this happen willingly, so what went wrong and where did all of this candy come from?
When I was growing up we had candy exactly four times a year. On Halloween, Christmas, Valentines Day and Easter. We hoarded the loot until the next occasion was upon us, treating each piece like gold. Of course, there was the occasional trip to the store with our saved pennies burning a hole in our pockets, and doting Grandparents who would slip us a stick of Juicy Fruit when our folks weren't looking, but not like it is with my kids.
I am not going to even try to pretend that I don't contribute to this phenomenon, but I would like to figure out how I became this way. It seems like it is getting worse with each child. I hardly take Katie anywhere without a lollipop hidden in my purse (how else am I going to keep her quiet?). But I really don't like it at all, I am ashamed of it and yet the more I think of it, to my generation, it seems to be of no great significance. People don't seem to think that there is anything wrong with candy, candy and more candy! Teachers hand it out at school for good behavior, bank tellers give it to you when Mommy makes a deposit (or even a withdrawl), baristas always have a big 'ol can of Dum Dums at the ready, even the barber has lollipops!
I can't figure it out and I am right there doing it too. I am the Mom at baseball handing out "yogurt covered fruit snacks" to all the kids. Come on, the yogurt does not negate the fact that they are . . . CANDY! Hello, high fructose corn syrup? I pack lots of "easy" goodies for trips to the park like pre-washed apple slices, string cheese, individually wrapped goldfish and, oh yeah, lollipops aka CANDY! Why? I know, I should slice my own apples too, but I am also a bit partial to convenience.
My friend brought her daughter over to play last week and brought goodie bags for our two year old girls, with, you guessed it, CANDY! Why? What is wrong with us thirty-somethings (gosh, that makes me think of that tv show and now I feel old) that we are so consumed with candy, and the goodie bag thing? Oh, don't even get me started on that one! I am totally a slave to those too, but I loathe them at the same time. Why does this paradox continue if we are so aware of what we are doing? It is not like I enjoy the candy either. Believe me I have a sweet tooth, but more for the cakes, cookies, ice cream and pie type not hard sugar on a stick!
I want to be able to let my kids enjoy the "treat" part of having a treat, but I am afraid that if I don't put a stop to the frivolousness of it soon, they will have no idea what a treat really is. Or, they will require a much more extravagant treat than I am willing to provide.
Posted by carrie