Monday, July 24, 2006


"Boys will be boys", I seem to be saying that a lot lately. It's a pitiful cliche, a stereotype and overused just as much as "girls are different"; but today, right now, at this moment, it couldn't be more true. I always say that my boys are so different. They were different as infants, toddlers and now as boys.
McRae was a mellow baby, maybe because he had 2 parents all to himself (a luxury foreign to my other 2 children). I watched over him like a hawk, for every moment during the first 3 months after he was born. He slept in a stroller that folded down completely flat and looked just like a bassinet. If you locked the wheels, what was the difference, really? When the time came to move him to his own room, just across the hall from ours, I wheeled him a little each night, and finally, at the end of the week, he was on his own. I rocked him to sleep every night after that, I took him everywhere with me. He hardly ever cried and grew into a funny, independant, adventurous and incredibly curious toddler in spite of all of my attention. Now he is all of those things and more. He is incredibly smart, but finds school "tedious". We have a lot of homework drama at our house with McRae. He is the most nimble kid I've ever seen jump a fence, and I am amazed (and frightened) with his "no fear" attitude towards just about anything.

Wyatt was different than his brother not only because of his size (3.3 pounds bigger) but his temperament. He was one of those "rock and bounce and don't you dare sit down" types. He was a good baby too. He slept well in his own room from the beginning because he quickly ourgrew his bassinet. He gained independence from me sooner than his brother in the areas of walking, talking and breastfeeding, but relied on me more in the emotional department. People always assumed he was older than his age, and often (when riding in the double stroller) the boys were mistaken for twins. He remains close to both myself and my husband, and doesn't like to be away from us for very long. Although his teachers refer to him as a leader, a good role model and an excellent student who can always be relied upon, he struggles with his "good boy" label, and tries to break free of it when he can. He loves and excels at everything he tries, and is always a good sport. He is also the most empathetic child in the world. Always concerned with others feelings, to the point that it worries me sometimes.

These boys are so differently seperately, yet when together it is like their bodies and minds meld into one: the "I can't keep my hands off of you" beast. Will someone please tell me that this will get better? I don't know if it is the fault of testosterone (which being a female, I don't have. Or maybe a little, I don't know but I do know that it's not enough to understand this relentless physical relationship that exists between my boy children), or their age, or the fact that they are so close in age, which is a blessing AND a curse at times. They can be hanging out one minute, reading their Nick magazines, or catching bugs, and then BAM!

They collide, always in fun, mind you, but tangled up in each other in the strangest of poses.

It goes on, and on, and on.

I seperate, I plead with them to cut it out before someone looses an eye (or in our case a tooth). I try to ignore it, I sing "la la la la" to myself. I. Can't. Take. It. Any. Longer. I am beginning to think I need to pick up a copy of "How to socialize Your Puppy".


LindaJ said...

Just can look at it this way, what if you had 2 girls...All of that snot and tears would be enough to send me over the moon.
Just Brrreeaath.

Mamacita Tina said...

Future wrestlers? You just need to provide a mat and protective gear. Let Katie referee.

Christina_the_wench said... Your boys are my daughters! *insert weird Twilight Zone music here* Victoria and Amber are 19 months apart and you just described each one to a tee! I am officially freaked out. If you find the manual they forgot to give us, make a copy for me, will ya'?

Becky said...

lol well i dont have any boys but my MIL told me that my hubby and his brother were like that too. i think it really is just how boys are. i think it'd make me a nervous wreck! haha

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Ha! That is so cute. I live in a house full of men too. But I like it, because that way I can stay the princess. hee hee.

Your boys are soooo cute.


Kevin Charnas said...

ugh. I reluctantly remember some of the physical battles with my brother. we were awful. thankfully, it was never in front of my Mother and neither one of us have any scars, that show.

Lisa said...

heeheee. My sister has two boys. They are still little yet, but you described the personalities of both! And they roughhouse alot too.

Angry Dad said...

MMMmmmmm Boys. I have three and if you think two can meld, wait until the 3rd one gets involved, even if they're only a baby.
Great pictures!!!